Stop delaying your happiness
Open Acceptance begins with your Self.
Not with fixing, controlling or changing the people or circumstances around you.
It is a way of returning to what you know—and remembering to listen when life makes it difficult to be open.
You already know what a more loving and aware response would look like.
But when the conversation shifts, the pressure mounts and the old fear takes over—knowing what to do is not always enough.
In the moment—
You react.
You shut down.
You override what you feel and say yes when you mean no.
Fear tells you that something outside you must change before you can feel better inside—and you agree.
That’s where Open Acceptance creates space for another agreement.
Not by controlling or forcing another outcome.
By meeting what is here from Love instead of fear.
What is Open Acceptance?
We are all programmed with fear.
Acceptance is an agreement with what is.
Open Acceptance is the practice of making another agreement—with Love rather than fear.
It does not ask you to tolerate harm or stop changing what can be changed.
It asks you to create enough space inside you to become curious about your fight—the fear, belief or old pattern trying to protect you—to see it honestly and choose again.
Open Acceptance is simple, but it must be felt in the body and lived to be truly understood.
OAM stands for the Open Acceptance Method: a practical way to bring this experience into everyday life.
It helps you remember and embody the Love already within you—so you can live from it in the moments that matter.
When you can see the pattern clearly, you are no longer trapped inside it.
“So profound and yet so simple.” — Charisse
Why Open Acceptance?
You cannot change what you’re fighting.
Most of us try to force change by resisting the experience we’re in.
We’re quick to judge.
We blame.
React.
Run away.
We fight.
Control.
Suppress.
But this resistance just creates more… resistance.
It keeps the old agreement in place.
Open Acceptance interrupts it.
It allows you to meet the whole experience—not only the parts that feel comfortable or acceptable—with Love.
Because when the fight within stops, even for a moment, awareness becomes possible.
And awareness is where another choice begins.
“Life did not change, but I did.” — Elzette
How Open Acceptance works
Change begins with space.
Open Acceptance does not make the pattern disappear.
It helps you make enough space to recognise the pattern—in your thoughts, emotions and body, and in the way you respond.
The tight chest.
The racing mind.
The urge to defend, fix, withdraw or take control.
When you pause and meet the whole experience with Open Acceptance, your nervous system has a chance to catch up with what you already know.
From that space, awareness makes choice possible.
Accepting responsibility for your choice—returns your power.
That is not the point.
The practice is returning.
Again and again.
“I knew so much, yet it felt new because I heard it in present time.” — Laurette
The story of Open Acceptance
Everywhere, he saw closed hearts.
Hurt
Anger
Sadness
Suffering
Pain
As a young boy, Renier decided he wanted to change people’s faces for a living.
Renier is super sensitive to energy—he sees and feels it.
As a child, he did not understand it. In time, life taught him to believe he wasn’t safe.
It became him against the world.
He made an unconscious agreement with fear, believing he had to fight to protect himself.
Living from this agreement, Renier closed his heart and separated himself from life, other people and himself.
In his early 20s, he was introduced to energy medicine through Reiki and Kinesiology, which helped him understand the energy he was so sensitive to.
Through this work, acceptance began to reveal itself.
But he was still angry.
At 30, Renier discovered NLP through a three-day experience where he felt his heart open again.
He experienced another way.
Renier became obsessed with applying what he’d learned in every area of his life. In time, one pattern kept revealing itself: acceptance.
Acceptance did not change life.
It changed his experience of himself—through the consistent practice of unconditional Love and acceptance within.
He made another agreement—with Love instead of fear.
As he opened his heart, Renier began to participate in life again.
What began as Renier’s own practice of acceptance became a method for helping others stop fighting themselves, see their own patterns and be happy now.
Today, OAM helps people change their faces by opening their hearts to life as it is—to the unconditional Love within.
What Open Acceptance looks like in real life
The practice is simple.
What people experience is personal.
Seeing themselves more honestly—
“I needed support through my resistance and judgements. Today my state of mind is clear.” — Monika
Recognising what is happening underneath—
“Together we uncovered what my subconscious was focused on.” — Ryan
Shifting their perception—
“I shifted my perception from fear to Love.” — Quentin
Taking the tools into everyday life—
“All the tools given to me are effective, and I apply them every day.” — Pam
How to practise Open Acceptance
OAM is practised while life is happening—
In the breath you take before reacting;
The compassion you bring as an old pattern plays out;
In your decision to listen within before overriding yourself.
Our vision is to share one million moments of Open Acceptance: ordinary moments in which people pause, notice and remember who they are—so they can choose a more loving way.
“The changes in me are wonderful and sustainable.” — Rene
Work with an OAM Coach
OAM meets you where you are.
Some people begin with a card.
Some begin with a conversation.
Some are ready for deeper support.
You do not need to wait until life becomes unbearable. Coaching can help when you keep meeting the same reaction, relationship or decision and cannot see your way through it alone.
An OAM Coach can help you recognise your patterns, practise Open Acceptance and create new choices in real life.
All OAM Method Coaches are trained to embody the Method in their own lives before they teach it. Each coach brings their unique lens to the same living practice—one grounded in love, acceptance, and self-awareness.
Wherever you are, you’ll be guided back to the same truth—
Love is already within you.
Now.
Meet the Coaches
Founder, OAM Method Trainer and NLP & Hypnotherapy Master Coach.
Renier sees patterns quickly and brings intuition, honesty, humour and heart to deep inner work.
He works with people who are ready to embody the Method in their own lives—including coaches who want to share it with others.
“He understood what I was going through on a deep level.” — Rome Naidoo
Certified OAM Method Master Trainer and Coach, NLP Practitioner
Quentin brings calm presence, directness and lived understanding to his work. A natural storyteller with more than 15 years’ experience leading teams under pressure, he makes complex patterns simple, relatable and human.
He helps people understand what is happening in both the mind and nervous system, see what is driving their patterns and turn insight into lasting change in everyday life.
“Quentin is direct in the best way. He gives you what is needed for you to give yourself.” — Ciril Rama
OAM Method Coach, writer, artist and embodiment practitioner.
Kathryn brings warmth, creativity and an embodied understanding of what happens when the mind knows—but the emotions and nervous system don’t.
She helps people slow down, listen within and create enough space to meet themselves and their lives with greater awareness, Love and self-acceptance.
“Your warm-hearted nature has made me feel so safe through this journey.” — Chantelle Elliott